Wednesday, 17 July 2019

I quit being busy


[I QUIT BUSY] Not "I'm quite busy", I mean I quit being busy.

Last month I got a strong flu that hit me hard and felt like I had pass out for 4 days, followed by 10 more days of weak and low energy, forcing me to stop working and stayed offline.
Staying in bed got me bonus time to think from my heart, re-evaluate my goals & values, destroy and re-build my belief, so I ask myself:

"What do I want from this life?"
"How can I serve the world with my talent, so I can live an abundance life?"
"Why am I so busy? Why do I have to start 5 new businesses at the same time? Why do I have a never ending to-do-list?"

Turns our playing busy is part of my procrastinate strategy:

"I'm so busy so I have no time to sort my shit out"
"I'm so busy so I have no time to heal myself"
"I'm so busy so I can ignore my heart calling, no time to follow my real dreams."
"I'm so busy playing small and solving small problems, so I don't have to face the real bigger problems and take any bigger risks."

I also enjoy "Being busy", apparently I am proud to tell people that: "Being an entrepreneur, I haven't had a day off for 2.5 years!" 
I like the word "entrepreneur", because it is difficult to spell, difficult to say, and it sounds cool.

But at what cost for me to keep playing this busy card?


According to the Law of Attractions, which I respect this law so much, "What you focus on is what you get"
I was focusing on 'being busy", therefore I keep attracting small things that will keep me busy.
4 business, 4 times of the work, 25% of result on each project.
Sales & Marketing, book keeping & finance, net working to meet new clients, leads generations, quote package and arrange meetings, social media postings, blogging, doing the actual work, post production, education & learning, website building & SEO x 4
Yes I could outsource many of these, but I do need to get the hang of it myself as start up, before I can teach assistants / staff how to do it.
So I switch to focusing on the end goal again:

Financial Freedom + Emotional Freedom

And then what? Keep peeling off onions:

So what is the end outcome for me? What do I see myself in the next 5 years?
I can travel the world, relax and chill, enjoy the abundance life, connect with people, spread positive vibe, raise 5D vibrations, get people out of the matrix, share stories with others, learn more cool shits (read more books, go to more classes & seminars), go to nice resort and do nothing sometimes, spend time with husband, keep my body fit (more yoga & pilate & gym), keep my beauty (facial & massages & good skin care), keep on living a happy life (By meditation, stress less with the small stuff, stay away from negative people or things that doesn't matter, etc), spend my time & energy wisely according to my energy quota check book. (Or my 'do I give a fuck" check list)
I did not see "WORKING MY ASS OFF" on the list.

How can I get there without working my ass off then?
By establishing multiple passive income streams that pays me to go on holiday.

Ah-huh moment pops up:
All these years I have been building multiple passive income streams including multiple businesses and investments, I got used to keep building and keep building, that leads me to my 'busy lifestyle".
This "Busy lifestyle" slowly becoming my 'comfort zone", so when I feel like to relax and slow down, my mind doesn't like the un-familiar.
Ego doesn't like change remember?
I was 'so busy" for years, it becomes part of my new identity, when I try to chill and take a day off, I feel guilty!

Am I there yet? How long does it take? What do I need to do to build it?
Oh wait! I can semi-retire already actually, I just never look at 'retirement" this way before.
What do you mean by you can retire already?
Let me explain:

How much money do you need to retired?
When ask most people, they may say a certain age with a certain amount of money.
For example:
"I can retired when I'm 65 with 2 millions in the bank"

What is your plan to achieve this?
Most people would say variety version of this:
"I will keep working for 30 more years, saving XX% every month investing into retirement funds, which could be XXX (Insert traditional investment methods: Super Funds, Property, Shares, Stocks, Bonds, etc) for 5-25% profit per year, compound interests for 30 years, then I'll have $XX amount of lum sum to retired"

I used to do that too, I saved more 30-50% of my income from my 1st full time job back in forever years ago into fixed terms stocks / shares / funds back in Hong Kong.
When all my friends go on shopping spree holiday 3 times a year, buy new phones & ipads, buy new clothes, buy new designer hand bags... 
I save money hardcore and invest them, dollar cost averaging in the stock markets, buy property when market crashed.
Which can be a great strategy for a non-trader like me, who just simply save and invest.
Before I know it, I do have a bit of money but not millions that I can just 'retire".
Why not?
Why do I need millions to retire?

Money belief:
So I meditate on my money blockage and found out that my money belief was passed down from my grandma.
She has been through war and been poor in her early life, so she has always been saving money, living under mean, working hard, got married and raised children young... Just like everyone else in her days.
Until children grown older and left home, grandma grandpa started to invest, suddenly after 2-3 decades they was rich.
I guess back in the 70s/80s it was easy to make money?
Grandma & grandpa bought stocks & shares at early stage, bought property out right with cash, keep buy & sell riding with the market waves. And they collected taxi licences making them a billionaire.
However, they did not live like a billionaire at all. Grandpa & Grandma still living like a poor until they die, with huge amount of assets and cash, but not spending them while still alive.

She passed down this money mindset to my dad.

Dad was poor to start with, just like grandma, he had a difficult childhood and struggled through adulthood, got married young and have kids which cost so much money to raise two princess: my sister and me.
Dad worked hard to provide for the family, sent daughters to England to study, they learned expensive things like piano, violin and arts.
Then pattern repeats, once me and sister turned 18 and no longer require financial support from the family, dad started to invest and collecting assets and doing okay.
But then again, he is living under mean, still working for a while (He was bored, he needs to talk to people, he's your talkative taxi driver)
Only recently he decided to go travel and enjoy life while still physically can.

I look at their patterns and thought, I might be doing the same.
Keep save save save, invest invest invest, but I was afraid to spend money!

Once I decided to enjoy life more, let money flows like energy, I feel much lighter!

My non-busy life:
This month I deliberately set lower targets, every morning I spent an hour on abundance meditation, set intention for the day, do my affirmations and enjoy the morning hour with 3 cats sleeping on me.
I either go 7am yoga or lunch yoga, while listening to audio learning material when walking.
In the morning I would slowly make my chai latte, while listening to webinars or books or researching on crypto news...

Back to my desk, I set my to-do-list of the day very small, only 2-3 very important + urgent tasks which I can easily tackle.
The rest of the list are 1-2 important but less urgent tasks, which it won't stress me out if I don't finish it today. 
For example, finishing my life coaching knowledge paper (deadline end of the month)
Then fill the rest of my to-do-list into learning & education, which is what I enjoy doing at the moment, these are part of my 'me-time". 

My old massive big to-do-list was my old habit to keep me 'busy", making my to-do-list smaller, I didn't die.
No one come after me, no one is chasing me, no real deadlines...
Because all of these 'tasks' were created by me, deadline were set by me.
Who say I must create a professional running life coaching business with full website, business card, attend to daily net working event to get 30 students + run 5 workshops monthly +  create 5 online programs + posting daily videos & facebook live and make 20k month by end of 2019?
Who say I must create a list of 100 people to call & connect for my social marketing company so I can sign up 3 consultants + 5 clients monthly and make 20k month by May 2020?
Who say I must fill in all 35 weddings for my wedding photography business and get all contract signed and deposit paid for all 2021 jobs by October 2019? Who say we must be fully booked 3 years in advance?
Who say I must run my energy healing / Access Bars business the way we should, and run classes + sign up clients to fill my calendar?
Who say I must clean the house daily weekly monthly?

I did.
I set these goals to stress myself out and I can reset them so I can start enjoy them. 

I quit playing the busy card and I feel much calmer now.


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